I’m not your typical addict. But I am screwed. So much for binging on sugar treats, coffee and tea at the weekend with intentions of eating clean for 30 days. “I’m sick of eating this, I don’t need this anymore”. I even chose to be a bit more realistic and went for a one week goal instead. So how have I ended up with a cup of Yorkshire Tea at 4pm with two Hobnobs?! (aka biscuits my non-UK friends, sugary, oaty, dunk-them-in-tea biscuits that have been taunting me all day! “You know where I live!”…damn biscuits).
Are we allowed to change our minds? Yes.
Is it difficult to change our minds? Yes.
Do we change them? ….[insert your answer]
Mingle, Loiter and Cross-PolLinate
Networking is great (not a full stop) when you don’t care. Evil little gremlins that pop in and out with ‘they don’t care’, ‘you sound stupid’, ‘what’s special about you?’ – well they need shutting up. There’s think before you speak and then there’s networking, where thinking before you speak leaves me in a tailspin. From the past few months of attempting to network-my-arse-off, I have found three states of being at these events:
So stop treating me in 1s and 0s.
Feelings from the past six hours have included calmness and anger, happiness and fear, sadness and gratefulness. A feeling on its own is neither negative or positive, it just is. The story you tell yourself, the narrative, is what attributes the negative or positive spin. If you see me crying, am I sad? Is it wrong to feel sad? The feeling behind the crying is frustration, is frustration a negative thing that needs avoiding or eradicating? Would sitting on top of frustration with gratitude journals and books on crushing it alleviate the frustration? No. So why do you think you can just flip the switch?
What is thriving? To me, it’s about flourishing, about being abundant and open to opportunities. It’s beyond not being ill, but being well and that wellness being contagious to others. Not just physically being capable of doing things but feeling enthusiastic and uplifted. It’s not about being happy all the time. More like a quiet optimism, a general hopefulness that things are well and that things will play out well. Continue reading
No answers here, just a pinch of doom & gloom. Forget fancy morning routines, every morning I wake up I have to will myself to get out of bed. It’s exhausting.
The 80:20 combo with deep reflection
Working for myself (for, by? just me either way) means simultaneously stressing about networking my ass off to meet the ‘right’ people (but being open to opportunities and therefore can’t be too picky), promoting what my work (but without giving up all the goods for free whilst not having an identity crisis because the work is not me), on top of actually doing the work for paying clients.
At the end of my last block of 4-weeks (here’s a previous blog on how it maintains focus and momentum to work in 4-week blocks), I decided to do a deep dive reflecting on the past few weeks, highlighting what was essential, what was non-essential (aka faffing around), and how next to proceed. Continue reading
Action requires doing. So how are you going to follow through?
One key tool in time management is the Eisenhower box, or the Important/Urgent box. I first came across it from James Clear’s article and have added my own twist to it to make it easier to remember:
When we receive requests, it’s easy for us to assume that what’s important is also urgent and immediately go into action without thinking exactly how. We assume that we have to do it right now, or that we have to do it alone. Here are some How’s to consider when you’re unsure whether you can take something on or you know you can’t and need to work out a solution with your boss.
“Be comfortable with being uncomfortable”
That was my main goal when I went on my first solo trip to Taiwan for two months. Why? Whilst I was happy with my life, I also wanted to see what I didn’t know. Given that the only certainty is uncertainty, why not embrace uncertainty?
The 80:20 rule in time management
If I gave you 5 minutes to tell me your time management issue, you would get straight to the point. As a result I would get straight to the point with what you could do. After a series of 5-minute one-to-one coaching sessions with eleven people last week, I noticed some similarities in my suggested action plans. So hear are some suggestions as you get on this week: