I’m not your typical addict. But I am screwed. So much for binging on sugar treats, coffee and tea at the weekend with intentions of eating clean for 30 days. “I’m sick of eating this, I don’t need this anymore”. I even chose to be a bit more realistic and went for a one week goal instead. So how have I ended up with a cup of Yorkshire Tea at 4pm with two Hobnobs?! (aka biscuits my non-UK friends, sugary, oaty, dunk-them-in-tea biscuits that have been taunting me all day! “You know where I live!”…damn biscuits).
Are we allowed to change our minds? Yes.
Is it difficult to change our minds? Yes.
Do we change them? ….[insert your answer]
So stop treating me in 1s and 0s.
Feelings from the past six hours have included calmness and anger, happiness and fear, sadness and gratefulness. A feeling on its own is neither negative or positive, it just is. The story you tell yourself, the narrative, is what attributes the negative or positive spin. If you see me crying, am I sad? Is it wrong to feel sad? The feeling behind the crying is frustration, is frustration a negative thing that needs avoiding or eradicating? Would sitting on top of frustration with gratitude journals and books on crushing it alleviate the frustration? No. So why do you think you can just flip the switch?
What is thriving? To me, it’s about flourishing, about being abundant and open to opportunities. It’s beyond not being ill, but being well and that wellness being contagious to others. Not just physically being capable of doing things but feeling enthusiastic and uplifted. It’s not about being happy all the time. More like a quiet optimism, a general hopefulness that things are well and that things will play out well. Continue reading
No answers here, just a pinch of doom & gloom. Forget fancy morning routines, every morning I wake up I have to will myself to get out of bed. It’s exhausting.
“Be comfortable with being uncomfortable”
That was my main goal when I went on my first solo trip to Taiwan for two months. Why? Whilst I was happy with my life, I also wanted to see what I didn’t know. Given that the only certainty is uncertainty, why not embrace uncertainty?
The 80:20 rule in time management
If I gave you 5 minutes to tell me your time management issue, you would get straight to the point. As a result I would get straight to the point with what you could do. After a series of 5-minute one-to-one coaching sessions with eleven people last week, I noticed some similarities in my suggested action plans. So hear are some suggestions as you get on this week:
Five steps to getting the balance right.
I’ve heard of this distinction but I didn’t really get it until I was in the middle of ‘selling’ and realised I wasn’t quite hitting the mark. See, experience is worth a ton of theory! One of my time management workshops last week didn’t play out as well as I’d hoped, many contributing factors, but in particular, different expectations, which I should have seen coming. Continue reading
Real insight, growth, ah ha moments, come not just when we’re actively doing but when we’re actively not doing.
Between moments of consuming, we need to pause and consider what we are consuming. For what purpose？For who?
Between moments of outward expression, in asking the attention of others, what are we really trying to ask for but are suppressing?
Am I an ambivert? An outgoing introvert? An extroverted highly sensitive person? Labels can be useful but I’ve realised that I don’t fit in one box, I sit in two at least and the key to my happiness is to bounce between them regularly (or ignore boxes entirely).